Don't ask Don't Tell

My husband was used to be in the military service.  He told me how it is being in the service.  I understand it is not very easy.  One thing that surprise me was when I found out that guys go to shower together NAKED.  My reaction was naked?  Ohh I can't do that.  He even told me that even in school.  After gym especially once you're in higher grade maybe around high school after gym class everyone go to shower together naked.  yes naked.  I grow up in Philippines a country where most women are so conservative especially those from the provinces.  I never have any experience being naked in-front of other people other than my husband.  But wait except when I went  for my medical prior to coming over here in US.  That is why i don't know if I do agree on don't ask don't tell.  Because if i will go naked with other people I want to make it sure no one is looking at me in a malicious way. I have no against gay people but being around with them it made you so very uncomfortable.

Speaking of gay people.  As a woman I prefer to hang out with gays than to lesbian.  To me gays are more like a girl like me but a lesbian is a guy.  In Philippines I grow up hanging out with gay guys.  my dad was not happy with it.  As according to him gay are still guys they have dick.  But to me I treated more like my girl friends.  I gave them girl names.

By the way in Philippines you see gay guys anywhere.  If you go to salon mostly who works there are gays.  To me they do better job than a woman.  They gave you a hair style that looks good to you.  We look at them as norman human being we don't judge them because they are homosexual.

Wither you are homosexual or not still i don't want to be with other people in one shower especially going naked.  No way over my dead body.  how about you does it bothers you?

I Am In An Interracial Relationship

Interracial is used in reference to the mixing of people of different racial groups. If we say interracial relationship it is a relationship between two people of different races.

Interracial is a great opportunity to learn about another culture and have new experiences. Encourage your partner to share his/her culture with you and vice versa. Remaining open to new experiences will improve your chances of success.

It is very important to remain respectful at all times. Many people are sensitive about their cultures because it is an important part of who they are. Don't force your partner to try something or be critical when he or she wants you to try something new. This is one good thing between roger and I we are both respect each others culture and we introduce this to our girls.

Also remember that all cultures are different. You may not always understand something your partner says or does. Instead of responding with judgment, appreciate this uniqueness. Remember, one of the benefits of interracial relationships is this exposure to new perspectives. Once in a while i have a problem of communicating with my family because of my accent. Now that the girls are in school they start correcting my accent. I tried to correct it but its very hard.

There is this situation at work that until now still an issue for other people. I don't know why but people at work make it a big deal. When they found out that this person when she just started working with us she saw some pictures of Roger and I at his computer she made a comment like it is nice that Roger is in an interracial relationship. She added more to that comment that made other people offensive. especially to other people whom they have relationship with different race. Actually to me so what she made that comment. I do appreciate for people who have sympathy for us. At least I know they did not think any negative about me or Roger about our relationship.

I am proud to say "I Am In An Interracial Relationship". Roger and I are happy to be with each other. We are blessed with two beautiful girls. That's what its matter. We don't care what other people think.